• This post is an attempt to help those who are interested in developing a deeper understanding of proper, godly relationship dynamics which are mostly spiritual in nature. It goes against the grain of modern, worldly dating attitudes and practices. Depending where you are on the “spiritual spectrum of life”, this could sound downright preposterous to you and that is understandable. People tend to mimic their environment and do what everyone else is doing whether that be dating sites, hookup culture, or just cycling through different people weekly or monthly. They choose people based on worldly perspectives as well as their own personal laundry lists of desires and tick boxes. The problem with this is that one major factor was omitted in their search; God. Was God ever consulted in regard to your search? Just because someone owns several businesses, makes a lot of money, drives a nice vehicle, or is physically attractive doesn’t mean that person will be a great choice as a mate for you. Some people even make choices based on how they think others will view their selection. It is as if they want to be worshipped or revered simply because they have the “baddest chick in the room” or the most muscular guy in the lineup. The part they don’t tell you is that they are miserable at home, their mate is verbally and/or physically abusive, and they are swimming in debt. They forgot to mention that they have to lay next to a monster every night.

Is there hope? Absolutely. If you are a Christian, why don’t you consider allowing God to choose your mate or to lead you to the proper person at the proper time? All you have to do is ask Him for what you want. God already chose your mate before the foundations of the world were laid and He did so based off of His divine plans and purposes for each of your lives and not worldly criteria such as how good you will look together as a couple. Will God choose someone you are not attracted to? Absolutely not. Physical attraction is the first thing everyone notices. Now, let’s go deeper. If you claim to be a Christian, you should be living your life according to biblical principles which means you should not be having sex outside of marriage. People never want to hear that but hey, I didn’t make the rules. God did. Anything that you do outside of the will of God will rarely be successful and it usually causes you additional problems, suffering, and unnecessary heartbreak. By the time you do find someone, you are carrying residue from all of the previous people, and you are usually so damaged that you end up being a nightmare to be with anyway. Save yourself the trouble and do it God’s way. Besides, everything you have tried up to this point hasn’t worked so why keep doing the same thing over and over while expecting a different result? What you consider as “old fashioned” is really considered to be proper and in order for Christians.

Make it easy. Choose who God has already chosen. It is a lot less work, a lot less heartache, and a win-win for you and the Kingdom of God.